3 Years 3 Months picture update

Sadly enough I have very little to say about my locs. I have not tried any new hairstyles (not that I did that many to begin with) I have changed in how often I wash my hair though. I now wash my hair every two weeks. No real reason Im just very busy and I tend to wash my hair on the weekend and my weekends have been very busy so I found myself being able to wash it every two weeks instead of once a week. I dont really see the need to wash my hair every week so every two weeks it is until something changes. Im not sure if I metioned this before but I never realize how much my hair has grown until I see picutures. Now Im really starting to notice how much it has grown. Most of the time I keep my hair up in a high pony tail because that how i put my hair up in the morning when I take a shower and I just never take it down. I love the fact that I can be so lazy with my hair but it still look so good. So when I do let my hair down I see and feel how much its laying on my neck and shoulders. So enough with the yacking here are the pictures of my hair that is 3 years and 3 months old.

Really?!

I have a coworker who is always telling me that she wants to go natural but she doesn’t know if she can. I have gotten on my soap box more than one time with her but after awhile I just had to stop because I realize that until she is comfortable with who she really is and really ready to be natural there is nothing that anyone can say to convince her otherwise.

So the other day she walks up to me and say your hair is really cute when its curled. I thanked and started to go on about my business then she asked me so how long are you going to let them things grow. If yall could have seen the look on my face. WTF?! Im thinking what kind of question is that? It took everything in me not to say something really ugly. I simply said as long as I want my hair to grow then asked her back, how long are you going to keep going let your damage hair grow out? I think she thought I was kidding but really what kind of question is that?! I'm like what ever.

Shut your mouth

Now I know my hair is growing and getting longer because I retigten every 3 to 4 weeks so I know that my hair is growing just from that fact, but the other day I really realized how long its truly is getting and I must say it took me by surprise. I started to notice that when Im sitting on the couch watching T.V. Im laying against it or when i put my purse on my shoulder my hair gets caughet under the strap. Also that that it sits on my shoulders and is getting in my way.

Can you believe this I am actually complaning that my hair is getting in my way. I must say I am not use to longer hair at least not yet. WHAT?!

I am not much into styles a) they take a long time to accomplish and due to my lifestyle the style last less than a week, b) it pulls on my hair giving me a headache, but I purchased some lock loops about a month ago and I have started using them and I must say that I was pleased with the outcome. I think the curls are very cute on me and the gets my hair off my shoulders with is a plus. What I will say over and over again. I love my hair.

My Heart Hurts

I had to share this incident really quick. It really made me think, and it made my heart break. I took my daughter to the Dr office to see about her allergies. When we were called to the back the nurse that weighed her, and took her temp etc took one look at her and told her how beautiful she was. Now that is pretty normal she gets that all the time. Then the nurse goes to say and "Oh my god and your hair is just so beautiful, see you got that good hair. I wish my daughter had good hair like you. Well she does right now because she is only 2 months old. Oh and your eyes I love them, my daughters eyes are brown, I was hoping that they would come out lighter but Oh well." My heart really started to hurt. I felt so bad for that little baby girl. She as only been in the world for two months and the brain washing has already begun not by the world but by the closest person in her little life. I know as she grows she is going to always want to have "good hair" and will do anything she has to in order to get that. I hate how as a society we constantly want to look like something someone other that the way god made us. We yearn to have straighter hair, lighter eyes, some of us even want lighter skin. Even as I type this my heart is breaking, and I want to cry. It makes me so angry mainly because I dont know how to change it. The desire to be other than what we are is so strong and so wide spread that it almost seem like it will never go away. I wish there way for more women and men to love themselves. TRULY love themselves. I want to so badly be able to tell all of these beautiful brown baby girls that you are beautiful just the way you are. You don't need straight hair for the the world to see and love you................ I don't know even know what to say my heart hurts so badly right now.

Growth update

It’s been about two weeks since I colored my hair and the color has calmed down a bit, still bring but not as orange.

Its Orange?!

So even though I have gone back and forth on whether or not to color my hair I have decided that I WILL color my hair every six months. I lasted colored my hair in September so its March which mean it’s time to color my hair. I went to the local store to get two boxes of Dark and Lovely Honey Blonde color. To my surprise they were sold out. The only color that they had was Light Golden Blonde so I’m thinking sure why not it’s just a little bit lighter plus I don’t feel like going to another store so whatever. I get my two boxes checked out went home and colored my hair. So I have did nothing out of the ordinary I take my shower cap off to rinse the color out and I’m like WOW!! That is so much brighter than what I’m use to I wish I would have taken a picture of that it looked like.
The morning after I’m getting ready and my daughter comes into the my closet to let me know she has let the dogs out, brushed teeth, etc and is ready for me to do her hair. She walks out of my closet then comes back in and has a puzzled look on her face and says, “Mommy your hair is lighter brown!” I’m like yeah it is isn’t it. I’m trying to play along just to see how the conversation is going go. She is still looking at me with this puzzled look on her face and the she says, “it’s Orange!” At this point I couldn’t help but laugh, and say it is very bright. So I’m about to drop her off at school and the whole time while we are in the car she is staring at me and finally she asks me Mommy why would you color your hair orange. It’s orange. Then I have to tell her that yes it very bright and it didn’t come out quite the color that I wanted but it will be alright.
After I drop my daughter off at school I scoot on over to work. At first no one notices my hair and I’m not going to announce that I have colored my hair. The coworker that I’m closes to so much that we can pretty much tell each other like it is without worrying about someone getting offended. She was like whoa are you trying to look like me now?! I tell her the story of getting the color and not thinking that it wouldn’t be all that different. She was like so when are you doing to fix it. I told that I’m not color my hair again for another six months because it is very damaging, and I will just have to live with it. I had my camera handy this time and I had my coworker take some pictures of me hair. I must admit that my hair is rather orangey.

Just Checking in

I just wanted to stop by and show a little progess. I really dont have anything interesting to share about my hair. Im still retightening every 4 weeks. I dont plan to color my hair until March. I try to color every 6 months to give my hair time to recover. I personally dont see any change but then again I see my hair everyday.